In this crazy world we live in, Thanksgiving week is deep in our national psyche. Some of its associations are positive, like gratitude, time off and good food. Other feelings are more complex. For instance, tension and expectation, loved ones who have passed away, family arguments and so on. Nostalgia, drinking, eating to much and expectations of holiday bliss can bring on the holiday blues.
No matter what you are doing for Thanksgiving, do it because you want to do it. Please do not judge yourself by another's expectation. Even if this means staying away from an event or leaving early, your choice is the appropriate one. No one will remember if you forgot the cranberry sauce, but they may remember your state of mind.
Focusing on good feelings, especially gratitude, often helps. After all, this is supposed to be the whole point of the holiday. Make sure you give yourself the opportunity to spend time with the most important person in your world – yourself!
Happy Holiday, Cheryl Deaner, LMFT