What feeling do you most want to run away from? For some it is sadness, or grief - for others, anger or anxiety. Some can't abide admitting to jealousy or envy. Often, people do not realize that they are avoiding a feeling. They may stay busy, drink, socialize or otherwise create barriers to becoming aware of unwanted feelings.
One thing to realize is that feelings can't kill you - but chronically avoiding your feelings actually can!
So try this. Sit down with a paper and pen. Think of the thing that bothers you the most for exactly one minute. Then write about your feelings. In this way, you are freeing yourself from being a prisoner of a dreaded feeling. It the feeling continues to occur with intensity, talk it over with someone you trust or maybe a therapist.
Cheryl Deaner, LMFT 36764