There are hundreds of shades of love in the world. Love can arise in a desert of loneliness or in a shared abundance of joy. It can manifest within you from places one never knew existed. I believe that from the day we are born, love seeks itself, both within us and outside of us.
However, when love becomes attached to more negative emotions such as jealousy, insecurity or possessiveness, problems arise. But the problem is not with love itself. It is the attempts to hold onto love at all costs that most frequently overwhelm its qualities of selflessness, tenderness and compassion.
In the pain of possessive love one may want to forsake love altogether, but this no solution. Listen to the pain. Talk about it with those you trust, and learn from it. And even when love is gone, it can lead to one to seeking a better version of the self. Used as motivation, it has the power to bring about wisdom.
So open your heart to love. Play your part in this aspect of your humanity, and play it with gusto!