A mind turned against its owner is a sad sight. The person may see all the good in the world in others, but be unable to see the good in themselves. Even when others point it out their good, they do not believe it is true.
What causes a mind to be one's enemy? Often, a past and present condition, and sometimes even a person's physiology. However, a lot can be done to change these sad circumstances.
Below are a few steps one can take to make friend with one's mind:
Take care of one's physical body. Eat, sleep and exercise can go a long way to righting one's frame of mind about oneself.
Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling. Make sure to set aside time when them when they can really listen.
Take a break from the people who bother you. Go off by yourself if necessary. A walk in the woods, a mental health day, or other solitary activity can allow you time to make better friends with your mind.
Meditate. If you don't know how, sit by yourself in quiet for 5 minutes. Close your eyes, breathe, and allow your thoughts to stream by without getting caught up in them.
See a doctor. If you have an unpleasant feeling about yourself that you cannot shake, there may be a physiological disconnect happening in your body. Depression and anxiety, forgetfulness and other states can show up in testing. Even a vitamin deficiency can wreck havoc with your mood.
Thought stopping. Just say to yourself the next time you find that yourself picking on yourself: “I choose not to have this thought”, and change the dialog with your mind. You can actually do that. Try it!
If you still find that you are down on yourself after all these suggestions, it may be time for you to see a professional therapist, psychologist or counselor.
Best of Luck to You, Cheryl Deaner, LMFT#36764